I’m A Fraud: Why You Should Trust Me

Let me be straight forward, right now. I’m a nobody, I know nothing, and currently my life is headed nowhere. This might sound sad, but what I’ve found even more disturbing is that I’ve been able to pass off my own personal delusions, as reality. What do I mean by that? I’ve managed to get people to praise me, by merely provided evidence of my delusions, sure they might look good on the surface, but behind it the whole structure is being held up by toothpicks.

I’m good at two things, making people believe in me, even when I know they shouldn’t, and continually learning. The first is disturbing, the second is nice and provides a way to make myself more appealing to others. Like I said in my post about social media experts and masters, the only thing you need to be considered an expert, is more knowledge than the person you’re giving you information to, that’s it. I don’t need to know much to know more than you as a regular person to be considered an expert, so long as I can provide even a minute amount of proof. Once I have you,  I just have to keep my story straight, and avoid experts who know more than me A contrary action to the education.

In order to learn anything you must break the topic down, and interact with those who are knowledgeable. Since the help of a mentor, or other expert, is beneficial, I love getting in to arguments or seeking out the experts to have conversation. I take their word as solid advice and information and break it down so that I can more easily understand it. This is occasionally easy and more often very complicated, but if you endure and have one skill, which will be mentioned in just a second, it becomes much more simple. Education is all about gaining access to the  information you want and need; there are two simple ways to find the data you want, discourse with an expert, or searching for it.

The one skill that you need to  make this all work is listening. If you can listen and understand others,  it will make you much more likely to learn something from them. I realize, I need to turn the tables and re-analyze what I project, because I’ve had a few people ask me questions about myself, that I don’t feel capable to answer without exaggeration or lying.

If they’re was ever one person, above all others, to listen to, it’s yourself and your’ gut reactions, they let you know what’s right and what’s wrong. I’ve been lying by omission about what I know for too long, and now it’s time for me to listen to myself, and even more importantly everyone I interact with, because I haven’t for too long. If I get schooled, I will admit defeat and ask for assistance. I’m tired of creating tension, so I’m going to begin bowing out  gracefully, rather than turning my face and walking away, like a coward. I need to listen, and I hope you  understand this and will allow me to be someone who you can trust.

P.S. If I interact with you on any service, I invite you to step up and slap me if I ever seem out of line. We all need it, at some point.

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  • sidburgess

    Wow. One of the most captivating posts I have read in a very long time. I can't wait to read the rest of your stuff and follow your journey. Cheers!

  • Those who have nothing to lose can be among the most aggressive and innovative. I trust you because I've watched you for a while. Keep up the awesome blogging.

  • Sid, I'm glad that you found it captivating, hope you enjoy whatever else you find. Thank you, and cheers yourself!

  • Louis, I've heard that many times, and I think I've been to immobilized by fear, even though I've been telling myself I'm not. It's time I look into why I'm afraid and change something. Thanks.

  • Great post. The take-home line from this is about listening. Sometimes you've just got to listen, to others, to yourself. An expert listener is an expert learner.

    “P.S. If I interact with you on any service, I invite you to step up and slap me if I ever seem out of line. We all need it, at some point.”

    *flexes slapping hand* 😉

  • Mo, thanks; you're more than welcome to use, “LASER BEAMS,” if you want. 😉

  • Honestly Jim, I don't think you give yourself enough credit. I haven't interacted with you on FF for very long, but in that time I have seen you exhibit great wisdom, and a very strong ability to listen.

    -Scott.

  • Hey Jimminy! I haven't been active on FF for a while. I didn't even know about your blog. “Experts” are a dime a dozen. People that actually do something, or fail gloriously trying continue to captivate me :).

  • Wo0oW .. You are talking about ME at the first 2 paragraphs.
    I don't know you but I fell now I know much about you.
    I don't know what to say to you as the situation is complicated but I think you will pass this phase soon.

  • I think, “P.S. If I interact with you on any service, I invite you to step up and slap me if I ever seem out of line. We all need it, at some point.” was the coolest thing I read today, Well said.

  • Scott, maybe I don't give myself enough credit, but I might give myself a large amount of leeway, which might be negative. I try to listen, but I don't think I'm doing enough of it, and actually understanding, I need to put myself in others shoes.

  • Mark, I'm slowly working my way away from Friendfeed and back into other services, maybe we'll interact a bit more, as I diverge from the service. I always enjoy your blog, always something interesting and something to learn from there. 🙂

  • Thanks, Brandon. I don't expect to catch myself, doing stuff wrong 100%, or even 50%, of the time, so I want to make sure people know that they're off the hook and allowed to reprimand me when I'm wrong.

  • Shiningforcehero

    Sir … i really need to know more ..because everything written in that blog is me .. from the bad to the good and on how to lisent to the others .. its me ..100%
    i am 26 right now .. and i need to know how are you doing.. to know how il be doing when il be your age ..
    thank
    -leo

  •  I’m doing alright. Not great, but I’m getting by, and trying to prepare for a rather large change, of moving across the United States, in the imminent future.

    I’m only 22, so I don’t know if I can give you any advice that will change your past, but if you’d like to talk you can contact me at  jimminyfuller @ gmail . com